Budgie’s Journal #124 – Coming Out as an LGBT Writer

I guess this is my big “Coming Out” announcement. I spent the bulk of yesterday telling my closest friends and brothers this simple fact about myself: I’m gay. Sure, it’s not as simple as that when you talk about spectrums and percentages and whatnot, but it makes it easier to just sum it up in those two words. To add one more word: I’m mostly gay, and the Kinsey test confirmed.

But why would I come out at thirty-Seven years old, married to a woman I’ve been with for eighteen years, with whom I have a daughter?

Life took me by surprise over the course of the last year or two. My marriage fell apart, slowly. After everything, my wife and I are still best friends, but the breakup caused me to look inside myself to things that were just below the surface the whole time.

But I have the support of those closest to me. My wife plans to stick by me no matter what people think or say. Yesterday I told my brothers too, which was a huge step for me. I got my balls busted a lot, being told they already knew and was even presented with scientific facts as to how they knew. This was the result I had hoped for. If your brothers don’t bust your balls when you come out, then what’s the point?

There are friends of mine who already knew I had lived as bisexual at least, and some of them weren’t surprised by this newest revelation. Those who are also writers (notably Vee and KJ), encouraged me to be an LGBT writer, as my stories already contain characters from that background. For that, I knew I would have to come out and validate myself as not to make a mockery of the title.

So that’s the long and short of it. It took me a long time to get here, but I’m glad I finally made it.

Wish me luck!

-Budgie Bigelow


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